And there I was, obsessing over it, like someone who had nothing better to do with their time. The thoughts spinning around in my head as if they were on a bad carnival ride that seemed like it was never going to end. It was anything but productive towards the bigger picture of what I envision for my life, and yet, knowing this didn't seem to make a difference. I thought things like "this isn't fair" as I let the negativity spiral about how I had somehow been wronged. And then it hit me... do these people even think about me or care how I'm feeling? The short answer - NO. So I remain, a victim, but of my own mind...
How many times have we felt like this? How many times have we let a person or a situation affect us, that in the grand scheme of things really doesn't matter a whole lot anyway?
We waste far too much of our lives worrying about other people - what they did; what they're doing; how they made us feel; their successes; their downfalls. If we took all that energy and instead focus on our own, doing what we need to do to get where we want to go, who knows what we might actually accomplish. Easier said than done though, I know.
A few years back I started reading books by author Robin Sharma, starting with "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari." I don't typically remember a whole lot about every book I read, capturing bits and pieces to store in the back of my mind, but there is a particular line in this book that speaks to the point I'm trying to make. To summarize, it says that our mind is like a garden, full of so much potential and beauty. But like every garden, it can be taken over with weeds if we don't cultivate it and protect it. The negativity in our lives, whether it be thoughts, actions or people, are the weeds that will take over our garden if we let it. While I've never forgotten that analogy, sometimes the weeds do get the best of me. Thankfully, every day is a new day to do better than the day before!
Today I was watching Oprah's "Super Soul Sunday" as I typically do on the 7th day of the week, and guest speaker Wes Moore summed it up perfectly. "Don't let people who don't matter too much, matter too much." Exactly!